The trust we have in ourselves is a journey that starts from within, don't you think?
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Let's take a moment and recall the last pep talk you had with yourself. Was it filled with words that gave you hope, sparked encouragement, and ignited faith in your potential and the endless possibilities that lie ahead? It's a tough one for many of us to ponder, isn't it?

So how do we navigate our dreams, our aspirations, our goals and the road that stretches out before us?
When our minds are clouded with doubt, with a constant internal dialogue that's less of a cheerleader and more of a critic, even taking that first step can seem daunting. We've already painted a picture of the outcome, haven't we? Shouldn't we show ourselves the same kindness we extend to those we care about? Think about it. Have you ever given a friend that much-needed pep talk when they were sweating over an upcoming exam or a big presentation at work?

They find solace and comfort in your words because they trust you. They believe in your faith in them. But would that trust remain if your words focused solely on their struggles? Probably not, right?
Yet we find it hard to extend that same courtesy to ourselves, don't we?
Sure, the relationship we have with ourselves might seem like it's just there, like we're stuck with it, There’s some truth in that I will be honest... So isn't it all the more reason to make this relationship one that's filled with compassion and motivation?

The path towards self trust as with a lot of stuff is unique and will look different for each of us. We want this to form the foundations of achieving the goals you have.

Feeling your feelings 
Ever caught yourself tangled up in the confusion of your own emotions? In our fast-paced reality, do we sometimes find solace in distraction when our feelings become a challenging maze to navigate? Be it mindless scrolling through social feeds, getting lost in video games, or finally buckling down on that lingering project - are these not our escape routes from the intimidating task of unpicking what is happening for us? Sounds familiar, doesn't it? While such diversions might offer temporary peace in our minds, they don't really give us the chance to sit with our emotions, understand them, or figure out our next move. If you're someone who finds comfort in conversation, like me, a chat over coffee with a friend could provide the much-needed outlet. Or if you're more of an introspective soul, jotting down your thoughts might offer a fresh perspective or insight.

Change the station 
Ever tuned into your own internal radio station? You know, that one that seems to have a knack for playing the hits that really get under your skin? Sometimes it's like our minds have a default setting to the "inner critic" station, and boy, can that DJ be harsh. Ever heard those tracks? The ones that tell you you're not up to scratch, that success is a pipe dream, or that every step you take is a misstep? And despite the negativity, it's almost like there's a twisted sense of comfort in those familiar tunes, right? But what if we dared to change the station? What if we acknowledged these critical hits but learned to see them for what they really are - misguided attempts at keeping us safe? How would that change our dance through life? We want to play those hits that give us they've got this I can do this outlook, we can even thank the critical DJ for trying to help but let them know we have this in hand everything is sorted.

Trusted sources
We all have different people who we can count on for different things. Those who are careful with the words they choose are somewhat skilful in their approach, and those who are straight to the point without any sugar coating. That's the value of people. When we are thinking about taking steps to achieve our goals we need to go to the right people at the right time. If we are already losing faith and the DJ is playing a critical or outdated hit. We need to be able to trust in the person we go to, to support us getting on the path to success again 

If trusting yourself sounds like a more hopeful place to be. I can help you!
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Do you ever find yourself caught in the tangle of your own thoughts?

I have especially when it comes to understanding the connection between intention, mindset, and action. I know I have and  It's something I often discuss with clients. The idea of only been in control of our words as they leave our mouths and being hopeful they are received in the we we hoped  can feel pretty terrifying. I remember years ago feeling like I almost had to rehearse conversations before they happened as some kind of prep. I'm better at this now thankfully.
We get into conversation and hopefully they flow easily, stress free. Many of them happen naturally and because they don't have any risk attached we are okay.

But what about those connections where there is attraction, a job opportunity  or situation where their is something likely to change.

The crux of the dilemma, usually  lies in the alignment – or often, the misalignment – between what we intend to do, the mindset we cultivate, and the actions we ultimately take. It's as though there's a constant battle raging within, where doubt and second-guessing muddle the waters. 
We might set out to put our best foot forward, that's our intention. If we hold the mindset of acceptance or rejection then there's a lot more at stake. There's probably going to be a lot more consideration around  our spoken words and how we act because we want to get it right.

At work, we might set out with the clear intention to be more assertive in personal and professional relationships, fuelled by a mindset that has self-confidence in the driving seat the value of our voice. But when the moment of action arrives, there's a hesitation, a voice that questions whether we are overstepping or misjudging the situation.

When we start talking about intentions and their impact on our mindset and behaviour. The idea that our intentions set the stage for how we think and act is both empowering and scary. 

We can choose our direction, align our thoughts and actions as far as possible of course . But on the other hand, there’s this pressure that comes with it. What if my intentions are misguided? What if I set out with the best of intentions and still end up lost? I hear you and that could happen but what if it does 
It's a balancing act whilst there a chance something could be lost  there’s equal changes of hope.  We can always reassess and realign our intentions. Thankfully we don't have only one chance at this stuff.

I've got the key...
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It isn’t to have perfect intentions from the start, it would be nice I know but to be willing to reflect, learn, and adjust as we go. It’s about embracing the journey, with all its uncertainties and opportunities for growth. After all, setting intentions is not a one-time act but an ongoing process.

It's truly heart-warming to see mental health being openly discussed on various media platforms. The visibility and openness can help break down the stigmas that many of us have silently battled against for too long.

It's a relief to know that conversations about anxiety, self-doubt, and other mental health challenges are becoming more common, encouraging people to speak up and seek help, knowing they're not alone in their struggles.

Amid our daily hustle, it can feel incredibly isolating to think that no one else could possibly understand what we're going through. This feeling alone can make the weight of our problems feel even heavier.
When people choose to share their personal stories and struggles, it does more than just fill silence; it bridges gaps. Hearing someone else share feelings or experiences that resonate with our own can light up a path that was previously shrouded in darkness, showing us that others have walked similar paths and have found ways to feel better and create a life where they trust in themselves more.
In my work with clients, we talk about how sharing their experiences can help them feel less alone and begin to trust themselves more. It's a gentle reminder that our stories deserve to be heard and can also help others feel less isolated.

I know that recognising when someone is struggling can be tough, and it's understandable that we can, at times, wish there was some kind of label. Because then we would know for sure and could take action quickly.

Where to start?
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Remember to keep the conversation open about what you've just watched or seen.
 It's important to acknowledge and normalize reaching out for help. Instead of asking lots of questions, try to be curious about opinions and feelings towards something on the screen, rather than someone you are worried about. They are likely to observe how you are responding to this, and sharing may come later.

Have you watched a documentary or on screen problem recently, that has left you wanting to understand something in your life with more clarity. I can help you. 

Imagine you're a tourist, you've just arrived in town it's your first time here. You are full of excitement, energised and alert. You really want to get stuck in - it's a place you have wanted to visit for ages!.

When you are in an unfamiliar place, you may feel more vulnerable and disoriented not sure of your way around. You might be bursting for the toilet or even in need of a good coffee after your travel.

Many of us can do this. This a quick question with little need to overthink because we approach it with a  what possibly could go wrong attitude. They will have a wealth of knowledge or not be able to help. Whatever the outcome nothing crazy is likely to happen.

Wait, what if we bumped into someone who was also heading to the coffee shop and offered to show us the way? As we start walking together, we engage in a casual conversation, asking questions like how long are you planning to stay here and what are your plans for the day. You are pretty similar and find that you might even be attending some of the same events. It's all really easy going time goes quickly.

I know what you are going to say, I don't have the confidence. I hear you but believe you do. You have the confidence and courage within you, even if you may not realise it. In fact, you have already demonstrated it by taking action. Don't doubt yourself, trust in your abilities.
 
When venturing into the tourist world it often brings to the forefront a whirlwind of emotions, especially for those who struggle with the daunting task of having conversation in unfamiliar territories. The thought alone can stir a pot of anxiety, a feeling all too familiar. There's this nagging self-distrust that whispers, "What if I can't make myself understood?" or "What if I misinterpret something crucial?"

Don't lose sight just yet. Who said you have to go to a different country, you don't even have to go to another country. You could simply go to a town a few miles away.  There's always someone around. This would allow you to engage in conversation.

How do I approach it?
​1) Decide what you fancy doing? 
2) Choose an area you would like to explore?
3) Have a plan in place for getting there?
4) Once you are there, put your tourist hat on (it doesn't have to be an actual hat unless you want it to be, of course and get going).

There is no right or wrong way to tour remember!

If you want to wear your tourist hat more often and have more confidence starting conversations. I can help.