 Self-worth starts with you Its the value and respect we have for ourselves. It is about the way we see ourselves, our abilities and our sense of confidence. Have you ever felt rejected, maybe you have smiled at someone attractive in the street and didn't get a smile in return? You walk away feeling gutted because in your mind this means you are not attractive or worthy and say to yourself why would they smile anyway it isn't like I'm intelligent or anything. The list in your mind goes on. Perception and projection are closely related to each other. Perception refers to the way we interpret and make sense of information, what we see or hear. It's influenced by our previous experiences, beliefs, expectations, and emotions. Projection is the process of attributing our own stuff to another person. We can consider our own intentions when saying or doing something but unfortunately not so much in the way it is heard and received by the other person. We constantly try to mind-read and second-guess ourselves. Not all of what we believe and what our mind tells us is true you know. Ask yourself these questions: Where's the proof Do we have evidence for our beliefs are you working hard to find ways to make things fit together even when they don't. Am I comparing myself to others? This is an unfair process, particularly with social media and the 'edited' versions of life on our screens. List your own strengths and use these to support you in creating the versions of life you are moving towards. Invest this time in you and your achievements Do I embrace all of me? We all have aspects of ourselves that we may not be proud of or wish to change, but denying these parts of ourselves only prevents us from being our true selves. By accepting all parts of ourselves, we understand ourselves more, and who we are and can move towards a more fulfilling life. We start recognizing our strengths and weaknesses, acknowledging our past mistakes, and being honest with ourselves about our wishes and needs. So, take the time to reflect on all aspects of yourself, both positive and negative. Embrace them, learn from them, and use them to move forward on your journey towards self-discovery and personal growth. I have supported people to feel worthy, I want to help you start to love and respect yourself again.  Are you a man waiting to reach out?
Men and women are different and so is the way they seek support. Therapy was thought of as something women seek out. We know for many years, the idea was associated with weakness and vulnerability, and this deterred men from getting help. I can't say how pleased I am this change is happening men are now beginning to seek out therapy it's more slowly. Slow and steady wins the race though right? I love working with men, I know it's tough for them to reach out, they face unique challenges in society, and although improving there is a stigma that is still around. I enjoy seeing the benefits having a safe space can offer in what can feel like life in the fast lane. It takes courage to confront difficult emotions and work towards personal growth and feeling better. Reasons guys reach out for help... They are working up the nerves. This could be to put themselves out there in the social world and meet and connect with new people. They want to be more confident and comfortable in the ways they come across to others. Men who lack direction Society highlights the need to have goals and things they ‘should’ be achieving. I have a lot of dislike for the term should. We have a choice around our goals and achievements. All too often there is outside pressure They might not know what these goals are and left feeling lost, unsure of their purpose or place in the world. There might be others who know where they'd like to be but are not sure how to get there. It is so easy for us to compare ourselves to others, what careers they have, where they are in life and how we haven't got what they have at the same age Loneliness This isn't to say they don't have mates they go out and have a good time with but maybe feel they can't be real with and have a close relationship. We all need someone to share our ups and downs with or maybe they want to be there to be able to hear and support mates struggle but are unsure how. I have experience in supporting men to develop the skills to feel happier and more content in life.
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