Changing the tune.

Have you ever heard a new song and played it on repeat, the first couple of times are alright but then we need to mix it up a bit. Many of us will relate to listening to a song we love to the point we can’t stand. Why is it we do this, when we know the most likely outcome. Is it that we often take the all-or-nothing approach without even realising it?
Have you ever noticed this with your thoughts doing that too?

The "inner critic" or the negative voice that many of us hear in our heads from time to time. The voice that tells us we're not good enough, that we'll never succeed, or that we're making a mistake.

I can help you, I'm certainly no tech expect but I am an expert with your brain

There are steps we can take to start re-tuning and take some time away from inner Critic FM

What is it trying to teach us?

The inner critic is most probably trying to protect us from harm. Sometimes the inner critic may be trying to alert us to potential risks or dangers. At times it can make mistakes but trying to keep us small and safe within our comfort zone. If we can tune into this when it happens we can decide if we do need to be protected or if we can take the opportunity in front of us and start to grow.

Question the negative voice and look for evidence

Where is the proof that supports the inner critic's messages? Is there anything to back the inner critic up or it is the negative self-talk, or is it based on assumptions or outdated beliefs? We wouldn't eat out-of-date food, we don't need to listen to out-of-date thoughts either. It can be helpful to write down the specific thoughts that are causing distress, and then identify evidence that supports or contradicts these thoughts. This can help to put the thoughts in perspective and challenge their validity.

​Being kinder towards ourselves

Be kind to your inner critics fear and out-of-control feelings. “ I understand that you are feeling scared right now and you want to keep me safe "Imagine it as a friend who's looking out for you. This friend cares about your success. They might point out areas where you could improve, but they do so in a supportive and encouraging way. By reframing your inner critic as a friend, you can start to see the positive intent behind their words. It's safe to say our friends want the best for us but don't always get it right.

​it is important to remember that the inner critic is not the truth of who we are. It is simply a part of the conversations we have with ourselves, and we have the power to choose how we respond to it.
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