We all have urges

Our emotions often go together with our behaviours

If we are feeling angry our primal instincts would have been to ‘go into survival mode’ to attack physically or verbally.  We can contain ourselves, manage these reactions and find another way. Society tends to give a kick in and influence us. We tone it down.

When we are feeling depressed we might stay indoors because socialising is the last thing we want to do. We can't think of anything worse than being a ‘Debbie Downer’. These are some of the automatic behaviours we fall into when being led by our emotional urges.

Have you ever been there... I know I have.

 Whilst these feel the best ways of handling the situation in the short term, in the long term not so good. 

Even if it's through gritted teeth go gently with those who have pushed our buttons. Let's react differently, Instead of giving in to anger, become gentler and more patient with them. 

When it comes to low mood instead of missing out and isolating ourselves Perhaps we recognize that staying indoors and avoiding social situations isn't always the best approach. In fact, maybe it's time to embrace a more 'you-friendly' way of socializing. What do you think?.


 Focusing on the opposite urge until you are ' less emotionally charged'. Over time we will begin to let go of our automatic urges. It will take a little time for the 'older urges' to see there is another way. Stick with it - it works honestly.

Follow these four steps 

1) Recognise natural urges - What happening for me?

2) Think effectiveness - What is likely to be the outcome?

3) Go gently - What the oppose to the emotional urge 

4) Check your charge - How much emotional change is around

I know that emotions can feel tricky - mine still do some days you are in good company. I love helping clients to find new ways of balancing their emotions rather than feeling consumed by them. If you are interested in working with me. Please get in touch

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