Unpacking the Pressure

Are you in your late 20's or even reached your 30's, do you ever feel like time is slipping away from you?

The pressure of age and the ticking of the social clock can be overwhelming at times. It's natural to want to keep up with expectations of society, but it's important to remember that everyone's journey is different. So take a deep breath, relax, and remember  you're on your own unique path.
If this is you, have you ever noticed the immense societal pressure that exists to follow a social clock? It appears to be constantly ticking and if you allow it, it's easy to become fixated on the opinions of others regarding where you should be and what you should be doing at your current age.
Feeling overwhelmed with the expectations of others can be disheartening. It can feel like a burden that's impossible to lift, like being submerged in a sea of obligations that aren't your own. Sometimes, it can be easy to lose sight of what you want and your dreams. This can make you feel insignificant and confused about your direction in life. It's important to remember who you are and stay true to yourself.

​The crazy bit...

The opinions of those closest to us often matter the most. It can be challenging to balance our own perceptions with the views that others hold about our lives. Sometimes, we feel a nagging sensation in the back of our minds that we should care about the beliefs of those around us. After all, they want what's best for us.
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I'm going to guess now.

• Be a homeowner
• Have a partner 
• A job that you enjoy, that pays well and allows progression.

It's important to have a clear idea of what we're working towards, but we should also consider whether our goals are truly our own and their benefits to us they benefit us. 

Where does the pressure of the social clock come from?
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The biggest, in my belief, is comparing ourselves. We often compare something we like about another person with something we wish we had ourselves. It's a quick way of deciding if we are good enough or not. This happens without much effort or evaluation.

We see something we like about someone else's life and wish we had it too, without realising that we're different people with different paths and timelines. We probably don't know all of the details, the back story. Many of us are comparing something we like about another person with something we dislike about ourselves

Timelines have a place, probably for meeting a deadline at work, this makes sense because there are usually different ways of approaching a task but the end goal is the same. The same can't be said when we are making decisions about our life and future. 

 We shouldn't feel rushed to achieve certain things by a certain age, because everyone's journey is unique and there's no one "right way" to live life. If you would like some support with managing expectations and pressure.

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