Dealing with change
Change. As I wrote that there I experienced an unsettling feeling within my body, a rumbling inside my stomach. What was going on for me?
It is a word that can carry a variety of feelings in each of us. These might be dependant on the type of change. Is the change going to create an exciting opportunity, attending a new school, moving away from home and into a different city to study a subject you are passionate about (that and the new sense of freedom and into life you've been looking forward to for so long) but now it's closer its has a scare attached to it. It could be a change that is unavoidable, feeling somewhat mandatory without much flexibility.
As humans we are usually creatures of habit, like a degree of predictability, we like to feel in the know, knowing situations and circumstances well, with the unknown raising our anxieties as we are taken out of our comfort zones. The benefit of change allows us to develop the ability to adapt. Our feelings and the level of fear will be influenced by many factors. Our awareness of the potential for such change happening, expectations, choice, the nature of the change and how definite it is.
Our feelings towards change can be impacted on our self esteem, the way we think about ourselves, our sense of personal worth and value. Our thoughts, feelings and experience can shape us. Our sense of self esteem will contribute to our ability to manage changes. Sometimes we can be resentful of the changes a transition creates in our lives.
Transitions can involve endings as much as new beginnings, and sometimes it may be essential to find closure on certain things in our lives before we can open ourselves to new experiences.
We can feel vulnerable a bit like our structure and scaffolding is unstable but therapy can provide a secure base to explore and process how things are for you.